Saying NO to Online Hate
Bullying was a a big part of my teeage life that I like to hide at the back of my mind, so that I don’t have to ever go through the pain it caused me again. Bullying affected my confidence, my self esteem and at times, my mental health was a serious concern. Many people don’t know I was bullied, they don’t know that I struggled to get out of bed every morning. Hell, the bullies didn’t know. I kept it well hidden, putting on a new mask in the morning, pulling on my school uniform and heading out the door. The introduction to social communication on the internet ment I wasn’t hidden by the safety of my home. I was exposed to hate all the time. Be it for my size, my talents, for anything that people wanted to tease me about.
Cyber bullying, any type of bullying is wrong. It is the lowest form of communication, to throw insults, to assault a person, be it verbally or physically. To put them in a position where they feel at their lowest. Bulliest are irresponsible, obnoxious people. They have no manners, no respect, they don’t have decency and they sure don’t care about how the other person feels. They are low, disgusting and I have no emotional connection to the boys who bullied me through high school. If I can confess here, that I take a HUGE slap of enthusiasm when I see where they are taking their lives. It’s a wake up call to me, a slap on the face, that my life is fabulous and all they’re doing are wasting it using drugs and women. It’s fabulous because I can look at my life, look at what I’ve done and what I’m doing when they can’t get a job, won’t go to TAFE, live on Centrelink payments. Where did insults get you? Lost a job? Beat your girlfriend? Gone to jail? Shame, really.
I put my confidence to a supportive school staff, a supportive family and a school advisor. I put my success to a school principal that recognised my talents and pushed me int he right direction. I thank her every day, when I go to university instead of becoming a hair dresser. I love that fact that I’m a stronger, powerful, amazing woman and that I can walk out of my front door, not in fear like I did when I was 14, but as a powerhouse with dreams and aspirations.
UK based writer and journalist Rachel Hills sent out the call for women who had been faced with cyber hate. I knew I had something to say, I wanted to share my story with her and hopefully, help her find out more of the hate that goes untold on the internet. When I started blogging, I had someone contact me on Twitter. I remember logging on, in a great mood and just feeling ym stomach flop when I saw the comment. I’m trying to get things for free? I’m trying to become famous? At first laughed it off. But it kept on bugging me. It was as if the person was in the same room as me, and I couldn’t deal with it. I deleted the person. I blocked them. My defensive system kicked in. They don’t know who I am! They don’t know my blog! How rude! Am I not allowed to comment on a brand on Twitter, telling them I love what they stand for, what they provide? Get lost!
Rachel was such a sweet lady, such a talented writer. I was so happy to speak with her. We poke on the telephone for 20 minutes about life, blogging, Twitter and cyber bullying. She let me tell my story and didn’t interupt me. She askwed me questions. She was amazing, and I loved sharing my story with her. The talk feels years ago, but it was only a few months ago. Rachel was so wonderful in letting me know that the article had been published, and not just in a newspaper, but the most important magazine for issues that matter, Cosmopolitan. I couldn’t believe it. My name, in Cosmo. A magazine of such an amazing level, or importance. Thank you to Rachel for sharing this issue with the readers of Cosmo. Such an important issue that little is publically done about. Online crime is wrong, it is punishable by the law. People need to know that sometimes taking it too far really does hurt and it isn’t ‘cool’ or ‘funny’. Stop the online hate!
You can check out Rachel Hill’s article in the October issue of Cosmopolitan with a sexy Katy Perry on the front cover (available in newsagency’s and leading supermarkets nationally) for $6.95. The article is on page 72-73. Thank you once again to Rachel for this amazing experiance and for letting me share my experiances with her!
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